All or Nothing

It is Mental Health Month!!

Here is something you probably didn’t know about your mental health…. most people have the all or nothing mindset.

All or nothing- you are either all in or you are not. It is that simple.

The all or nothing thinking is known to be part of a thought process that is is common with people with anxiety and depression. This allows these types of people to only see the downside to any given situation. You can either succeed or you fail. But, what if there is room for something in between?

Not everything is known to be nothing or never. Just because our anxiety and depression is convincing us not right now, it doesn’t mean never. Sometimes, things just take time. We are encouraged to find the positive of not getting that job, house, or relationship. Sometimes, things are meant for us not now, but later on. If we don’t get it right now, it does not mean nothing is coming.

Having an all or nothing mindset means you either go above and beyond for something or not even trying. There are days where you are all dressed for an occasion or days where you can’t even get out of bed. You think your friends are beyond interested in you, or you think they don’t care. It means you don’t do anything without long term. Once you are done with something you are completely done. You get self-conscious about a lot about things including if people will stay around.

But, let me tell you a couple of things. When you think the all or nothing mindset, you cannot let your emotions win. We have to let your brain be stronger than our emotions. We have to give up the idea that people hate us or that just because something didn’t work out right now, doesn’t mean it can’t work out months from now. It is important to note that you are not a failure. Having an all or nothing mindset means you are empathetic and human. Nothing is wrong with you, but know not to give up and be able to think outside the box.

I am guilty of all these things. But, something I learned in the past couple of months is that you are not your bad thoughts, but how you turn them into something productive and meaningful. Scorpios are known to be the sign with this complete mindset.

“You don’t have to struggle in silence.”

That’s the tea

xoxo

Jo 💗